Of all the countless moments I had shared with my ex-girlfriend, the one I remember the most is the memory of the day when we last saw each other, on the day when she told me we were breaking up.

I was sitting in front of her, on the breakfast table in the garden at the back of my house, munching on the fried bread and baked beans, not at all aware that in a moment she would change everything.

We had a good thing going on — she and I— for the last two years. Great understanding, electric physical…

“We’re meant to be!”

This belief. This feeling — It is the most important reason that breaks up even the strongest of the relationships.

This belief that we are soulmates, that we are perfect for each other, it’s a miracle that we ever met, that our meeting was somehow special. But which in reality is nothing but one of the equally probable chance event among the infinite sample space out there. And this blind belief that now having found each other, nothing can change this — this state of love. …

It had started to rain again.

Standing at a cross-road waiting for the light to turn green I was staring at the wet road glistening with the yellow reflection of sodium lamplights when I felt something cool and soft pricking against the skin of my face.

I turned my head up and saw illuminated in the yellow cone of street lights, numerous drops of drizzle wafting down in the evening air. They were so light that they seemed to be floating in the air like flakes of snow.

Soon the drizzle had turned into a fine spray of a light…

In any business (and also in life), it is considered good sense to have a Plan B as a backup if your Plan A comes to fail. This Plan B, which acts as a cushion, ensures that you don’t up end up with nothing when you are roaring ahead to get everything. A person is considered reckless if he does not have a backup for a rainy day.

But it is frowned upon when the same principle is applied in romantic relationships — which is surprising, considering having the right romantic partner is not only an important part of our…

Anyone who has experienced love, however little, knows how powerful it can be, how it can spread to every inch of the fabric of our conscious and subconscious minds, rendering us so powerless that we end up doing nothing but thinking about the person with whom we are in love.

It is a beautiful feeling that shows us a glimpse of heaven on this earth.

But if we are not lucky, as is the case most of the times for most of us, and this love ends up one-sided, we end up in one of the most dreadful states one…

By the time I had showered, changed into fresh clothes, and was ready to step out of the house, the soft thrum of the rain had grown into an incessant downpour, a wild lashing rain drumming the roof and the pattering the window panes.

I went to the window and looked outside.

The square that had been bustling with the crowd now lay deserted, with trees swinging drunkardly in the swift wind, the little puddles forming outside the shops' steps and at the foot of the trees bordering the square on the other side.

There is no way she will…

From the many crumbling relationships I have seen around me — the relationships which look perfect in theory, and start really well, but ultimately wither away — I have learned that most of us have no idea the kind of person we should date.

Though what is surprising is that we all have some version of a list of our perfect match, which tells what to expect in our partner, what physical characteristics we prefer, ideal sense of humour, and other things which are strict NO, even if everything else matches out.

Like I remember this friend who met this…

I can’t do long-distance relationships — that’s what I told my ex-girlfriend when I was breaking up with her after she told me she had to move to Spain for work.

She urged me to at least give it a try.

But so sure I was that long-distance wouldn’t work that I completely shut her out, ignoring her pleas to not be so rigid on this. (We did give it a try, but in my mind, our relationship was already over. And so it did.)

This happened many years back. Now, as I look back at this episode of my…